Are You And Your Online Dating Love On The Same Page?

That title may sound strange but people sign up at online dating membership sites for a number of reasons.

There are people who sign up at online dating site who are just looking for casual dates. Some may sign up to date someone exclusively. Others looking to find their love online.

Are You Looking For A Online Date - OR - To Find Your Love Online

Think about it, do you really know?

There is a difference between online dating and finding your love online. When I first started out with an online dating membership site I didn't know this. I thought if I connected with someone online and we met in person, and it worked, then 'nature would take it's course and we would fall in love.... That's not the way it works. At least that is not how it worked for me. There are people that sign-up at online dating sites that are only looking for dates. They are not looking for a love - a long term relationship. You need to decide if you just want a date, or to find love before you connect with anyone online. Let me tell you my experience. When I first started with an online dating site I thought I was looking to find my love online. I filled out the profile, I made connections, I met 'people' in person, but something just didn't feel right. The 'people' I did meet people in person, that I had connected with through online dating, did seem like they were a good 'fit. but they really weren't. Some it took one date to see that, others it took a bit more time. But in the end they didn't work. I started to think about why it looked like they would work, but didn't, and realized that in fact I was not looking for a 'date', I was actually looking to find my love online. I believe the people I met were not looking for the same thing I was. Yes of course it could be just that we were not compatible, did not have great chemistry, but when I look back I think it was more that that.

I'm telling you this so you can look at the reason why you are joining an online dating membership site.

If you just want to date, have a good time and not a long time, that is ok. You need to be clear with that not only with yourself but also with anyone you meet online.

You also need to be clear if what you are looking for through online dating is a long term relationship, your soul mate, so that you/your connections don't waste each others time - plus - neither of you will get hurt.

Yes, you can get hurt.

When you connect with someone through online dating, and it all seems to be going great, if you live in the same city you will no doubt decide to meet quickly. If you are looking for long term, and they are looking for a 'date' you both will be disappointed, and someone will get hurt.

Be Open & Honest

To avoid this be open and honest with anyone you meet online prior to setting up a meeting off line. If you want to just date - say so. If you are looking to find your love online then tell them that you don't want to 'just date'.

Think about it this way. You can't change anyone, so even if they look like your dream partner, if they only want to date, but you want to get married, chances are it just won't work.

 

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